How to deal with JEALOUSY in a relationship

Sometimes couples argue.
Results whether they become closer or they give up on the relationship.

i'm not an expert in love but i will share some things about my relationship.

my boyfie is elder than me 6 years. my friends asked me if i have topics to talk with him. well, age is just a number. to me, if you love a person, you will have much more things to talk than with other people. it's like when you're close to someone, you will have much more things to talk than with a person that you just met.

due to our age, we do have many things not in common. for example, you can't expect a person at the age of above 25 to spend time with you everyday go out to play with you or spend time to do romantic things for you. i think that romantic things will only happen for once or twice in a lifetime. so, can't expect much.

at his age, it's the stage of building career and thinking about future; no time for playing games or whatever. (i should think about his feelings and understand why he did not do romantic things for me before this because in my age, my friends all around me have their boyfriends doing romantic things for them >< so, sure envy lar)

i'm 21 this year, so, i'm at the stage of playing, fooling around and go for more excitement if you all agree hehe but after all the arguments, i should think more maturely especially if you have a more mature partner.

How to deal with jealousy in a relationship?

well, i admit i'm jealous whenever my boyfie went out with his friends without bringing me along 'cause all along he brings me out with his friends but once he didn't, i will get jealous.. probably 'cause after being with him, my world is like more a person. Do you feel that way too?

when some girls jealous, they might think that they should do something to make their boyfriends to jealous back but that is a no no. you know the consequences.

A misunderstanding jealousy is always acceptable but an irrational jealousy isn't.

although jealousy in a relationship is not a bad thing, but no one chooses to be jealous in a relationship all the time. It's always lack of communication and misunderstanding that leads to jealousy.

1) learn to trust your partner. your partner is not going to stop loving you by just talking to someone attractive.

2) be rational and don't let the green eyed monster control over you.

3) confront jealousy and overcoming it.

4) listen to what your partner has to say. this way, you know what they are thinking. (guys, give her your attention)

5) communicate and understand. (guys, what seems like nonsense to you could mean a lot to your partner when they are hurt and want your reassurance)

Jealousy can be cute if it's experienced in moderation,

but anything beyond that can affect your relationship negatively.

So, learn to deal with jealousy!

If you FORGIVE others, you FORGIVE yourself.

so much of conflicts happened these days. however, i choose to forgive..

last night i went to a Christian event held in Grand Kampar Hotel.. i was really excited when i knew about the event. 'cause i felt like i've been spending so much time for myself and friends and boyfie but did not spare some time to get near to God. i felt like the relationship between me and God have really gone farer.. yea.. relationship.. people might think that being a Christian is a religion but the truth is that you are bonding a relationship between yourself with Father God.

i attend the event with Trinie (sis) and reached there about 7.45pm.. i can really feel a deep touch within my heart the moment i stepped into the ballroom where they held the event.. i feel God's presence and tears are flowing down my cheeks non stop...

i believe that He's real because i really experienced His help for so many times already and NOT like what other people say that i believe is because i'm brain-washed.

i still remember that a pastor who gave a talk last night said that we should forgive. He talked about his experience about how stubborn he was that he did not forgive someone from his past for 3 years. After 3 years, he finally let go.

He said, "When you don't forgive someone, it's like you are holding a knife; hold onto the sharp place. The more anger you have, the tighter you are holding the knife and the more hurt you are, the more blood you bleed. Imagine if you hate someone for 3 years and you are holding the knife hurting yourself and bleeding for 3 years. It's enough. Why don't you forgive and let go the knife?"

So, i was recently having too much of conflicts and i normally forgive but when if the person that mean so much to you hurt you again and again, how to forgive? In the end when i calm down, i think about the problem again. It was actually a small matter and so i forgive. However, what has been done by that person to hurt you, has been done. Probably i won't care too much about that person and don't want to be too close with that person anymore.

Finally i think about my best friend again. No one can ever replace her in my heart. She's my best friend since Standard 1 and until now and forever. 

When you take someone close to you for granted,

they get hurt, tired and leave.

And nothing will back to the same way as how it always had.

Appreciate, don't depreciate.

Fool of Lov3

Fool of Lov3 is one of my assignments movie.. we did a mock pc for our PR writing assignment to launch a new movie call Fool of Lov3 in conjunction with the April's Fool. :)

it's quite fun but tiring photoshooting and videoshooting..

poster of the movie teehehe

the movie is about 2 guys competing for a girl that they like. 1 guy is nerd and poor while the other guy is cool and rich.. it's a comedy movie and i laugh like crazy even though i watch the trailer again and again LOL 

below is the movie trailer.. enjoy! :P

My Memorable 21st Birthday

need to update bloggie d after lazy for 5 days.. >.<
well, last 2 days was my birthday (18th of March) and i did celebrated with boyfie and my bunch of monkey friends :)

my uni friends gave me a surprise and celebrated with me.. i was really touched and almost cried.. because honestly i've not celebrated my birthday for years but this year is my 21st birthday so i feel that it's important, at least to make me feel important after being human for 21 years. lol..

anyway, i should also appreciate that boyfie spent time to have a birthday dinner with me.. :) we went to Sushi Zento 'cause boyfie has not tried the food there yet.. so we decided to go there.. however, the conclusion is that boyfie don't think the food there are as nice as the ones in Kampai Restaurant..

while waiting for boyfie.... camwhore time! :D

 Do you see Sashimi?

  Do you see Sashimi??

 Do you see Sashimi???

 Do you see SASHIMI??

  Do you see S.A.S.H.I.M.I.???

It's my favourite~~!!!! :D

 Sushi~~ missing 1 piece over there XD

He ate finish so fast! 

i was just gonna start eating that time LOL 

probably 'cause we're both he's super duper hungry..

the next day after lecture class...

birthday dinner <3>

group photo with the monkeys HEHE

Be thankful for the bad things in life.

For they open your eyes to the good things 

you weren't paying attention before.

Disappointed

so disappointed with my close friend. how can someone ditch you for so many times but you still go for it?

now i should really make a distance between us. no more too close. just friends is enough. i'm the type of person that i rather be alone than being there for you to betray.

if you treat me good, i treat you good. if you treat me bad, i don't think we should talk more than enough anymore. 

think whether you're right or wrong. everytime you said sorry but you don't mean it. what for you're saying it to me then? 

Beauty Edition

it's quite boring to always post about myself so today i decided to write about some beauty info that i know to share to everyone.. :)

my face is dry skin type and i have small pores.. it's because my skin type is dry, so i barely have acnes but BLACKHEADS..
i can tell you, it's my nightmare whenever i look myself into the mirror as close as the mirror touches my nose.. >.< even places near my nose (area between the cheeks and nose) i can still see some blackheads..

blackheads are actually white in colour but i don't know why they're called BLACKheads.. but if it's not taken care of for a long time, the white heads will then turn into black colour which we called blackheads.. it turns into black colour because everyday we are exposed to polluted air especially when we walk across the streets, the smoke from the vehicles and cigarettes "torture" our skin and causes the pores to be clogged by those dusts in the air..

so, a few frequently asked question i can think of are,

1) how to minimize large pores??
if you're born to have large pores (genetic factor) then you HAVE large pores.. anyway, if you have them, then you should carefully take care of your skin because pores can get bigger than you actually have.. it's because when your pores are clogged, then they can stretched to become bigger..
so, use cleanser with exfoliator or what we called scrub to exfoliate the clogged pores and dead  skin cells for once a week. (don't use it everyday cause it dries the skin and causes wrinkles) i did some research and found out that small percentage of salicylic acid can actually unclogged your pores by targeting the stratum corneum. Stratum corneum is the outermost layer of your skin. When applied to this layer, salicylic acid act as a peeling agent, breaking down a protein and loosening dead skin cells.

some people might think that they wish to have dry skin type when they have oily skin..
yes, oily skin can cause acne but having oily skin when you're old can keep your skin from having wrinkles too fast. (i didn't say that people with oily skin type won't have wrinkles but slower than the people with dry skin type. so, don't be upset because both skin type have their goods and bads)

2) When it comes to buying facial sunblock, is it the higher SPF the better?
absolutely not.. maybe you will realise that even though you applied sunblock but still, your skin got darker than before after your activities under the sun.. actually sunblock is not to 'whiten' or totally blocking the UVA and UVB from entering your skin that makes your skin darker. it's actually to protects your skin from getting damage. Go for SPF 20-25. It is the average one except if you go for swimming or sports activities get higher SPF because you sweat along the time. If just normal use, no need to buy too high SPF because higher SPF have more oil means less moisture.

3) Does chocolate cause acne?
Well, it's not true. It's the dairy in the chocolate that flares acne. Dark chocolates won't. Instead, dark chocolates are full of antioxidants! They are also good for your heart and brain.

4) How to cure acne scars?
Erm.. there's 2 basic ways i found in the internet. i tried before and it really work!
First one, apply lemon juice on skin for 10-15 minutes and you're done!
Second one, apply mixture of tomato juice, cucumber juice and milk powder can also help in getting rid of acne scars.
However, you need to do few times to really make your acne scars fade away.
Avoid having food with too much of salt, sodium, msg, and soy sauce because they tend to darken your scars.
Or if the scar is there on your skin for quite a long time then you're advised to visit your dermatologist for professional treatment :P

random thought: sometimes the products after using them, your skin have breakouts. it doesn't mean that the products have problem. it's that the products are really cleaning you skin. even though you see your skin clean and clear on the outside but actually there's many dirty things under your skin and they're trapped inside. so the products force the dirts out from your skin. *this is what my dermatologist told me*

looks like my blog of the day is quite long >.<
anyway, last advice, to anyone out there with dry skin please drink more water and eat more fruits (i don't really like fruits) or maybe get some yogurts. these are the cheapest skincare you can get :)

PS: these are written based on my experience, advise from my dermatologist and research. you can believe it or just read it for fun! 

Why can people change so easily?

i used to have a bunch of really good friends since primary till secondary but it seems like many things have changed.. 

how can people change so easily? aren't we've once loved and cared for each other?

it seems like all of us are getting far apart.. is it because they've exposed to the society and slowly get to make more new friends that they wanted to neglect the old ones? 

when we said people changed, it's either to the good one or the bad one. my old friends did said i changed; they said i'm getting prettier d xD LOL just kidding.. but do you agree with that? 

hohohoho keep the answer to yourself.. haha!

anyway, i recently talk to a friend online but she seems different to me.. i don't know why.. we used to be so close :( 

it seems like she has become so "open" that she sticks with guy friends more than girlfriends.. is that a bad thing? probably not so.. but she's much more "open" compare to the days i know her before this...

people change and we can't control that.. hope that one day she can finally think back the good times we've been together last time.. 

Some people come in your life as blessings,

others come in your life as lessons.

Where's humanity?

what happened to human these days? where are the humanity? they call themselves human but i call them monsters..

i've read about so many rape cases and animal abuse that happen nowadays which seem so common.. it's so heartache to see these kind of things happen more rampant.. no need to mention, i'm pretty sure many people know how far worse the cases have become, like a father raping his child.. OMG

why rape? don't they have feelings? 

about animal abuse, i recently watched a video in facebook where someone shared it and appeared in my homepage.. i still can't forget the moment the girl put 2 baby rabbits under a book and then sit on the book.. i was like what the hel*!! i'm so angry that those people could still laugh as if they were enjoying.. 

i'm wondering.. what's happening to the world??

i will pray and hope that everyone will love each other and also the animals.. 

they also have feelings and will feel pain, it's just that they can't speak out and not able to defend themselves..

Think.

Fuh!!

Finally all the events are over.. it's been 2 days in a week that we performed..
and now, after enjoying ourselves, finally we had to back to the reality..
**A.S.S.I.G.N.M.E.N.T.S.**

have to do all the photoshootings and videoshootings.. so darn busy :(
need to do paperworks and presentations some more.. and mid terms are coming.. arhhh!

i got gastric today and nobody was at home.. how hard i endure the pain and scream out of pain also nobody can hear me.. no strength to walk.. so, i was thinking how am i suppose to buy porridge for myself to fill the empty stomach??
*that reminds me how good to have parents at home to take care of us* T.T

anyway, health is very important..
no matter how busy you are please take care of your health people!
God bless you! :D

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong

and start being positive about what could go right!

Holidays ended! =(

hohoho... Holidays finally ended and now i'm stuck with the assignments and events :( *cries*

so now, i wanna make just a short update of my CNY holidays in Singapore :)

On 9th Feb- 11th Feb, me and my family went to Singapore to visit my elder sis because pity her still need to work during CNY so we also take this as a chance to celebrate our CNY in Singapore! :)

erm.. i went to Singapore before but i can't really remember because the last time i went is when i was around 3 or 4 years old only.. didn't have even a little memory of what i did there last time ><

~~First day~~

higher and higher and higher!

i tell myself, one day, i must sit in the aeroplane with Ivan and look at the view together with him haha 'cause it makes me feel like i'm flying between the clouds and i wanted to do it with my loved one ^^

 as soon as we got there, we took our lunch and before having our lunch, we had "lou sang"

my lunch! delicious!!

during the night time, we went to have some walk in the Bugis street and had Thai Cuisine for our REUNION dinner in shopping complex.. not sure what's its name >< 

 me and younger sis :)

 parents ^^ sudden expressions HAHA!

failed picture -.- my elder sister (with the peace sign) still need to go to work after the dinner.. 

pity her! 

~~Second day~~

in Universal Studio

 where is he looking at??

 ok.. this is better i think -.-

 she's so pink!

 fake Marilyn Monroe haha! but she's so sexayyy

oh.... i feel like a kid again! it was centuries when i watch this cartoon :)

 erm... omagod...? i'm so short! >.<

finally we took a break and had our dinner in Vivocity :)

are you hungry now?? :P

~~Third day~~

we went to Harris's house for buffet in conjunction with the CNY celebration.

lion dance.. view from the inside of the house :(

til the end of the day, we went to had our dinner with aunt Sally and then it's time to back Ipoh..

what a journey.. tiring i would say but enjoyed.. 

anyway, good luck to assignments and examination people xP

How's your Vday?

valentine's day is over.. did you receive any flowers? presents? hugs or kisses?

mine was really normal like any other days probably 'cause we both are always together but the only special thing about this day is that we give each other presents and we can walk around together hands holding hands in a shopping complex.

perhaps other couples can always do that but me, not always. Ivan always have to work and every time after he finished working it's already late and he's tired. It's because he owns the business so NO off day :(
I'm someone understanding however a girlfriend always has her needs..

guess what i got for present?

handbag from GUESS ^^

love it very much... bought it for RM300++ after discount..

wanted it so badly before this but didn't get it 'cause it was RM509.00 but now i finally got it!!!!

so damn freaking excited weyy.. thanks boyfie for the present ^x^ teeeheee

erm.. as for his present, i get him a pair of NIKE shoes yayyy :P

there are sayings that say if you buy someone you love a pair of shoes, they will walk away from your life.. erm.. at first i was a little scared but trust me.. not true.. i've bought him 2 pairs of shoes i think.. but we're still sweet :D
recently his sports shoes spoil so i get him NIKE since the brand is famous for their quality i think >.<

anyway, we had our dinner in Kenny Rogers Roasters in Aeon Station 18 it's because all other restaurants have long queues.. :(

at first we thought of having our dinner in Sushi Zento but their service is bad when they're so many customers..
i called to the restaurant and thought of booking a place a few days back.. but when the waitress who picked up the phone talk so rude and i haven't even say a thing she already said "fully booked, please walk in if wanna get a table".. i was like...?? =.=
and i asked is it the restaurant in Ipoh Garden East just to make sure that i didn't called to the wrong place and she answered "i don't know where east, there's only one Sushi Zento restaurant in Ipoh".. watafak.... =.=
i thought customers are always right but..... nevermind..

as always, pictures time! ><

 one of my favourite top from The Next Shop

 boyfie searching for stuffs in the internet.. :)

while waiting for the food to come... xP

finally after we finished our dinner we went to watch movie and mostly are full T.T
in the end we watch Once Upon A Time.. funnyyyy~
the place we sit was in the 3rd row.. can you imagine how close were we with the screen? LOL
after the movie, finally home sweet home!

 blooms! so pretty :) 

 written in my daily planner :)

sticky sweets from boyfie Ivan

Happy Valentines day and also 

Happy 2nd Year Anniversary muah~~~!

What i did in the early of month February?

on the 2nd of February, our uni had an event which we called Talent Time.. it's the first time i participate.. this event is not about competition but performances from talented people.. yea.. you can say people like me haha!

so, what i did for my performance is that me and my team from the dance club were to do a dance performance.. 

due to the event's theme called Shanghai Night, we did a little of oriental dance in the beginning then I Got A Boy dance by SNSD.. 

the audience are very active and responsive.. along our performance even others too, the audience did make the atmosphere feel so alive!! that's what makes us so nervous.. 'cause we got to do the practices for only a week time!

even my friends all came to see our performance which made me more nervous.. but all the hard-work did paid off.. we were so enjoyed on the stage and we feel like encoring xD erm.. i'm not sure whether is "we" or "me" HAHA!

soon after CNY in the same month, we're gonna have performances for 2 more days.. so, i hope i really will have the time to update my bloggie as i determined that i will not be as lazy as last year which i only updated my blog twice or thrice only.. :(

helping them with make up for performance later

 mix and match :P

 pose.. S.W.A.G.?

with the break-dancers

act as the singer and was dancing orientally.. 

 performing SNSD I Got A Boy

from left: me, Eunice, Cooku, DomDom, Hae Lynn

U.G.L.Y. =.=

was it the photographer's problem or my problem? :(

FINALLY!!! the pictures after the event! erm.. there are still a lot of pictures not yet reach my hand :(

they're stretching or posing sexy pose? me? acting cute lah xD

my lovely babe! Kathryn! muah~~ 

for the video of our performance, i still haven't get it.. 

probably will post it here as soon as i get it! (^^,) 

we all take different paths in life 

but no matter where we go, 

we all take a little of each other everywhere we go.